Common triggers and challenges on a fertility journey are often associated with the Solar Plexus Chakra and Liver energy.
In this article we are going to:
· Discuss 7 methods for dealing with challenges on a fertility journey
· Identify common fertility triggers and solutions
7 Methods to Deal with Triggers
1. Identify the theme
2. Address the childhood or past wound
3. Journal and burn
4. Identify the lesson
5. Forgiveness
6. Gratitude
7. Channel the energy
1. Identify the Theme
Let’s say that you experience jealousy when a friend gets pregnant. Rather than feeling guilty for experiencing this emotion and avoiding talking to her or going to baby showers, let’s identify what this emotion really is. For example, this would relate to FEAR.
Fear of missing out, fear of being left behind, fear of ending up alone, fear of rejection. Once you understand that your feelings are valid and can name the underlying deeper emotion, you can begin to effectively deal with it rather than repressing or avoiding it.
2. Address the Childhood Wound
Has this situation come up for you before? If your example was an argument with a partner, how many times have you had the same argument and did someone in your family treat you that way as a child? If it was related to friends, has this situation come up again and again in different forms, with different groups of friends. Eg. Feeling left out?
If your trigger is a boss or colleague criticising you, have you been in situations as a child or a teenager when you felt judged and criticised?
The Universe always repeats challenges in cycles, to support us, so that we learn the lesson. If we fail to learn the lesson, the cycle repeats as a ‘blessing’ until we face it.
3. Journal and Burn
Take a piece of paper and write down all of your feelings about the triggering situation and the repeated cycles. Go as far back to childhood. Get all of your feelings about this trigger out of your body and onto the paper. Then burn the paper. This is especially effective at a full moon, which is a universal time for clearing energy. However, it can be helpful at any time.
4. Learn the Lesson
This step is an ongoing process which involves a change in behaviour because you have healed on the inside. This will result in a changes of outside stimuli, for example, you will no longer attract the same triggering and challenging situation to you, because your frequency will be higher and you will no longer resonate. You have learned the lesson and don’t have to repeat it.
A - Identify the negative emotion. This could be ‘lack of self esteem’
B – Identify the opposite positive emotion; ‘self-love’
C – Start to change small behaviours. For example, do what you love, affirmations, set healthy boundaries, say no.
5. Forgiveness
It’s useful to also have a journal or an app to record positive feelings. In your journal, write the Hawaiian hoponopono prayer: ‘I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.’
Then intend to forgive a particular person involved in the trigger. You may also want to forgive your parents for any inner child wounds, and yourself. This is a massive step in changing your energetic frequency and moving past your lessons. Even if you struggle to fully experience the emotion of forgiveness at first, intending to forgive is a very important step.
Holding space for love and forgiveness is a HUGE deal on the spiritual planes.
Forgiveness is considered a core soul lesson that not many people are able to reach, therefore it's a big milestone for us when we do succeed in this.
6. Gratitude
Saying at least 3 things EVERY day that you are grateful for is a powerful way to raise your vibration. And when you are in a higher vibration, it is much easier to move past challenges and receive good things. Gratitude can involve small or big things.
An enlightened perspective is to say thank you for the challenging situations and the people who caused them because without them you would not have learned the lessons and you wouldn't be where you are today.
7. Channel your Energies
What you focus your attention on expands in your reality.
When you fuel the fire, it grows. When you engage in an argument, the argument continues. When you focus on your flaws, you feel even worse about yourself.
Instead why not focus your energy on something higher vibrational. Such as a purpose or a mission. Imagine that you achieved a healthy pregnancy and were living your ideal future with your baby and happy family.
What would you like to do to encourage other women to achieve the same?
Or how would you work with children or teenagers to support their emotional health using the lessons you have learned?
When you begin to use your experiences in a positive way to help others, you succeed in turning your challenging situations into achievements. This is beneficial, even if it is just in the planning or daydreaming stage! It serves to distract you in a positive way from the negative triggers which have been draining your energy from your true journey.
So let’s now look at specific situations:
Have you ever experienced the following common fertility triggers?
You may relate to only one or two of these. In my experience, people usually experience one challenging situation that repeats over and over again.
1. Friends or family getting pregnant
Does this make you feel sad or conflicted? You are happy for them, but feel sad that it isn’t you? Does it make you feel like you are running out of time? Do you feel that life is unfair, if it can so easily happen for some people when you have been working so hard for such as long time?
Themes: Life not feeling fair, fear of running out of time
Opposite positive: Safety and support
Solution: Look for spiritual guidance, TRUST
Inner child wound: Was childhood hard? Did you feel unfairly treated in relation to siblings? Were you a late developer or did you find milestones harder to achieve than your siblings or peers, for example, school work, exams, driving test, first relationship etc?
Affirmations:
I trust the universe.
I trust divine timing
I create my own reality by guiding my emotions and my energy.
I am good enough
I am exactly where I am meant to be on my path
I am safe and supported
2. Work challenges
Do you ever feel under-valued or under appreciated at work? Do you feel that you give more than you receive? Would you prefer to do another job that is more fulfilling but you don’t know where to start? This can also be related to feeling underappreciated in other elements of life, eg. Relationships and family.
Theme: Responsibility, expectations and boundaries.
Opposite positive: Personal power and assertiveness
Solution: Set healthy boundaries, avoid negative energy
Inner child wound: Are you the eldest sibling or the one that your Mum often relied on? Was a parent either demanding of you, manipulative or critical? Were you made to feel guilt or shame if you weren’t a ‘good girl’ or met cultural, societal or family expectations? Were you a high achiever?
Affirmations:
I set healthy boundaries
I respect myself
I am important
I release guilt and shame
3. Family / In - Law Challenges
How many of you have difficult relationships with in-laws, or a family member, yet you feel trapped in the situation? If you stand up for yourself it may cause problems for others. This then leads to resentment.
Theme: Resentment, frustration, anger
Opposite positive: Self confidence, personal power, assertiveness
Solution: Set healthy boundaries, avoid negative energy
Inner child wound: Did you grow up in a culture or family where girls were treated as less important than boys? Did you feel criticised and judged as a child? Did you receive love and attention for achieving or being a ‘good girl?’ Was attention and praise conditional?
Journal: Releasing resentments, do you judge others?
Affirmations:
I love myself
I value myself
My opinion is important
I forgive
Numbers 2 and 3 are very similar in terms of the childhood theme, but seem to manifest in different ways depending on culture and family living situation.
4. Relationship Challenges
Do you feel that sometimes your partner does not make as much effort as you do, either in the fertility journey or in your relations? Do you argue?
Do you have a healthy relationship now, but have had toxic relationships in the past?
Theme: Lack of self love
Opposite positive: Self love
Solution: Do things for yourself, spend time alone, raise your vibration
Inner child journal: What was your family situation like? What did you observe about love from your parents’ relationship? Did you believe you deserved love as a child? If not, when did this begin? Were you bullied at school?
Affirmations:
I love myself
I value myself
I am special
I hope this helped! See you soon in clinic to try the transmutation meditation specifically for this theme!
Natalia
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